L is for Loser

Wednesday night woes

*Conversation with colleague earlier

“I hate going home alone every.single.night.”

(my response) “Be proactive. Do something about it. Go out and grab some dinner by yourself. Hop online and send some e-mails out. Go to the gym.” I thought these were all valid suggestions…she didn’t.

“I don’t want to send out e-mails. That’s so desperate. And I’m not going to the gym. Oh my hat. Why don’t I wear an “I’m Single!” sticker on my back.”

I don’t know. Maybe I’m out of touch but….is it really that bad to do these things in an effort to get out and meet people. Or just to experience life outside your apartment / home? I mean…am I that strange? I go to the gym, pick up magazines or books, order in Sushi and watch movies. And then, to prevent myself from becoming a total hermit and anti-social “has-been”, I accept invitations out, make contact with people, initiate plans (with my girlfriends, as well as guys). You make an effort to get out or make contact and it’s a wonderful little circle of fun, where it’s reciprocated and you get asked out on dates, ladies nights, dinner (and this does NOT include the Urban Family – I’m talking about meeting new people).

Anyway…so she continues by saying

“Maybe I’ll go get a drink at Cubana”

“Uhhh…don’t do that.”

“Why? You just said I should go to the gym. Why shouldn’t I get a drink?”

“Well, for starters, you’re feeling vulnerable and guys will pick up on it. It would be one thing if you were more confident. Then I’d say go for it, but don’t have more than one. Woman alone at a bar having drink after drink screams trouble. Woman alone in a restaurent / coffee shop, etc is dead normal and kinda’ sexy. But NOT a bar. And Cubana is notorious for pick-ups! (does this girl not know ANYTHING?). Secondly, going to the gym at least puts you in a situation where the guys aren’t necessarily there to get laid. Guys don’t go to gyms to pick up random women and take them home. AND exercise will make you feel better. Hey, I know. Go to Exclusive, buy a book and a coffee.”

“Nooo. Only bookworms and nerds do that.”

“Okay, so now I’m a bookworm and a nerd. Know what? I’m done. You have everything all figured out. If you’re single you shouldn’t dare venture out by yourself because you’ll be labeled a loser.”


I think not.

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