Don`t shout. Don`t make any fast gesturesâ€¦slowly now. Easy. I`m not ready to deal with the dayâ€¦
After all, I`ve only had 3 hours sleep. And, before you go thereâ€¦ I am not hung over (were it that easy). In fact, *sighs deeply* it`s a sign that you`re getting older when your main aim is not to consume as much alcohol as possible, in as short a time as possible. Noâ€¦I`m just sleep deprived. A whole week of getting to bed late (work, playing nursemaid, general insomnia) and last nights` soiree has finally culminated in my body going no further.
Today is Leo`s birthday and if you know anything about the Echoes, you`ll know that Leo is one of my urban family. He blogs here as well and we`ve known each other for a full decade (the early days spent in the cafeteria of the Neelsie Stellenbosch University. We NEVER seemed to have a class to go to. How we made it through our graduate studies is beyond me).
Last night Leo had a BIG BOY birthday. I don`t want to disclose the age â€¦but heck. You`re bright young minds, aren`t you? I`m sure you can put two and two together. We met up at about 11pm and helped the boy over the crest of that particular hill in his life`s journey *snigger* (can anybody say, Jean, hold the cheese). It`s a definitive moment for all of us I think. We sat around the table. And, although we missed one or two people there, when I looked around the table I saw history.
You see, the strange thing about my urban family is thatâ€¦looking 10 years back, I could have told you that they would still have been in my life 10 years on. I can tell you (without reservation) that they will be around another 30 years from now. And without getting too melancholy about it, I have to say that THESE people are my circle of trust (ha ha). We`ve seen meet up`s and break-up`s. Marriages and promotions. New homes, new travels, new jobs, new interests. We revel in each other`s success, but we`re really good at sitting down and saying, Fek. That sucks what just happened. But quit your whining now and get on with it.
Looking at us sometimes, you`d wonder what the dynamic could possibly be? We`re so different, each and every one of us. Wellâ€¦I guess it`s shared dreams and ambitions. We`re kind to animals and Zuma supporters (in so far that you`re kind to members of a secret cult who should really know better, but you forgive them for being total idiotsâ€¦). We are similarly socialized and we all find pleasure in the little things despite what we may have achieved at this point in our lives. We all like a good steak (had to throw that in). And, strangely enough, the one time that I am unashamedly a girl…a little lady without hesitation or reservation is when I`m with my urban family. Because I feel safe and protected and nobody`s going to be messing with me. We share out parents and extended family with each other. And our FPU`s, MPU`s and siblings know our friends as if they were part of the immediate family. Around each other, we`re not managers and experts. We`re not fashionista`s or yuppies. We`re total goodballs. We`re still the same kids with the dodgy hairstyles and fashion choices, who cried on each other`s shoulders about heartbreak. *smile* and had to scrape together R7.50 for a chip roll from Mo`s. It`s what keeps us grounded. And helps us remember who we are and what we are.
And History? Well nowâ€¦ we`re making history, baby!
So, Langeveldtâ€¦Happy Birthday sweetie! Hope you have a fabulous day and I know tonight will ROCK (we`ll try not to bring the house down too much).