Is it possible to become socially bored? I think so.
Right now I`m suffering from a terminal case of Social Boredom. For the most part I shouldn`t complain though. I have a great urban family. They are supportive, fun and intelligent and the group is not too bigâ€¦In fact, we`re quite an intimate little group of about 7 people – 2 Couples, 3 Singletons.
There`s always loads of humour when we get together and occasionally we can be quite civilised. We share good food, wine and conversation. I know that if I`m in any spot of trouble, these are the people I should call. In many ways I am extremely fortunate that I have 6 friends that will drop everything to help me out should I be in a fix. Not many people can boast such a grandiose number of staatmakers.
So what`s u, Buttercup, you ask.
Why the boredom and seeming disenchantment with the nature of your social life? Wellâ€¦routine is killing me. The stimulation of meeting new people and going to new places energises me and latelyâ€¦that â€˜aint happening. Lemme seeâ€¦.It`s Friday. So, at 5pm we`ll go to M-Bar for Happy Hour (actually Happy 3 hours), we`ll grab a booth and talk crap and have drinks. We`ll leave at about 8pm to hunt for food.
Predictably it`s going to be Mojito`s or Mohammed`s (do NOT knock Mohammed`s Boeries in Long Street). Done eating, we`ll head to Chilli on Long (which is not exactly uber-trendy, but it`s laid-back and unpretentious). We`ll shoot the breeze with Warren and Ronelle behind the bar and eventually head off home. And it`s nice. But it does get tedious after a while. Don`t get me wrongâ€¦we do sometimes slip out of our comfort zone and do other thingsâ€¦like, right now, we`re planning a little road trip.
So I realised last night, once again, that it`s not the fact that we go to the same places and do the same things because it`s clearly not that. It`s the fact that there is no influx of new blood into my group. Same places, same activities, same people. Whatever new thing we do as a group, we`ll inevitably do as the group and only as the group. In fact, the most fun I`ve had was at Leo`s place on New Year`s eve. 5 drunk students gatecrashed our party.
I loved it. They were young, annoying and stupidâ€¦but without any reservation they sat down and they didn`t mind that fact that they were ushering in 2006 with strangers. And neither did we. I suppose there`s hope. I love my urban family. I really do. I wouldn`t change them for the world. But I`m not a pack animal and in this family I do sometimes feel like the prodigal daughter. Always secretly wishing that tonight would be the night that we meet new people, do new thingsâ€¦go to new places?
** Incidentally, tonight I would`ve been perfectly happy in front of a fireplace, with a glass of Merlot in my hand and Mick Hucknall crooning in the background. â€¦